Today is Mother's Day and boy, I miss my mother. She died last year from complications from surgery. Out of three children my mother had, I'm the youngest and the only one who decided to have a child. Twenty years ago, tomorrow, May 15th, my husband Scott and I had a son. He was the most beautiful blue-eyed (like his dad) baby boy I'd ever seen and we were so proud to be parents. When my son was six, Scott died with leukemia. That was a hard time for us all. It's been hard raising him on my own, but I have a very loving, supportive family who helped out and it made things a bit easier. I've loved every moment of being a mother, good and the bad.
Two years ago, my son, Jamison (who was 17 at the time) was involved in a car accident that resulted in the death of his very best friend. Their friend's mother bought them a case of beer and let them go out on the road. For that case of beer a life was lost and Jamison wasn't expected to survive the night. He sustained massive internal injuries including: a crushed pelvis, which has left one leg noticeably shorter than the other now, a closed head injury (miraculously, no brain damage), collapsed/punctured lungs, kidney, spleen, bladder damage, and his intestines were split in two and had several holes throughout. He wore an ileostomy bag for weeks while his intesines healed. On top of all that, he has the memory of seeing his friend die before his eyes and he was pinned in the car unable to move, to help, even if he could have. His friend "J" let him drive the car and he didn't have a driver's license. As a mother, I wish I could take all his pain away, and the pain of the mother who's going through tremendous loss today, having lost her son two years ago.
All I can do as a mother, is be here and support and love him. More hard stuff is ahead for him but he'll get through it. He learned the hard way that a moment of "fun" has affected the rest of his life and the lives of others. The mother who supplied the drink hardly got a slap on the wrist and she was seen recently purchasing liquor again. Let's hope not for someone else's child.
Peace and love to all mothers everywhere today.
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